Advances in Social Behaviour Research

Advances in Social Behaviour Research

Vol. 3, 01 March 2023


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Individuals May Improve Their Intimate Relationship by Improving Attachment, Self-esteem, and Personality

Meiru Wang * 1
1 College of Arts, Humanities and Social Sciences, The University of Edinburgh, 57 George Square, Edinburgh, UK

* Author to whom correspondence should be addressed.

Advances in Humanities Research, Vol. 3, 453-463
Published 01 March 2023. © 2023 The Author(s). Published by EWA Publishing
This article is an open access article distributed under the terms and conditions of the Creative Commons Attribution (CC BY) license, which permits unrestricted use, distribution, and reproduction in any medium, provided the original work is properly cited.
Citation Meiru Wang. Individuals May Improve Their Intimate Relationship by Improving Attachment, Self-esteem, and Personality. LNEP (2023) Vol. 3: 453-463. DOI: 10.54254/2753-7048/3/2022547.

Abstract

The current study aimed to examine the relationship between romantic relationships and three important factors: attachment, self-esteem and personality. These studies briefly described previous research on attachment, self-esteem and personality and their effects on romantic relationships, and discussed their malleability and application of the intervention. People with insecure attachment, low self-esteem and personality vulnerability have less satisfaction within their romantic relationships. High-quality relationships have a positive impact on the enhancement of those factors. Besides, those factors are malleable in response to social experiences and specific interventions. Attachment styles can shift after completing the process of EFT. CBT treatments are an effective approach to enhancing self-esteem and personality. These findings provide evidence that people could change their attachment, self-esteem and personality, which implies that it is possible that individuals could improve their romantic relationships by changing their attachment, self-esteem and personality.

Keywords

Attachment, romantic relationship., personality, self-esteem

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Proceedings of the 3rd International Conference on Educational Innovation and Philosophical Inquiries (ICEIPI 2022), Part II
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